Inner LifeSpiritual Direction

About

Walking alongside people seeking deeper meaning.

Spiritual direction that helps people notice God's presence and live with greater purpose, peace, and freedom — and that stays accessible to anyone, including those in the demanding world of competitive sports.

Meet the founder

Rev. Ryan Irmer

Lead Pastor · Spiritual Director · Teacher · Coach

Rev. Ryan Irmer, in an alb and red stole, speaking at Wilson Memorial Union Church.

Never starstruck — whether you earn sixty million or sixty thousand, you're met as a human being with an inner life of your own.

Inner Life Spiritual Direction was founded by Rev. Ryan Irmer, a certified spiritual director trained through Francis House of Prayer, a spiritual center of the Catholic Diocese of Trenton.

I’ve been receiving spiritual direction for over a decade, and I don’t know where I’d be without it. Having received so much, I want to share with others how much it can change a life.
Ryan Irmer

Ryan spent twelve years in basketball — coaching, recruiting, and fundraising at high schools, colleges, and universities, including an NCAA Division II staff — alongside athletes of every age, background, and gender, and teaching physical education alongside it. He later went on to seminary and ministry: a Master of Divinity and a Master of Arts in Missional Theology from Princeton Theological Seminary, an associate pastorate in Northern Ireland, and congregations across New Jersey. Today he is Lead Pastor of Wilson Memorial Union Church, an interdenominational congregation in Watchung, New Jersey. He and the congregation are both affiliated with the International Council of Community Churches — and he brings both worlds to this work.

Listen to Ryan preach — Wilson’s Weekly Word · weekly messages from Sunday worship at Wilson Memorial Union Church

With twelve years of memories and accomplishments as a coach behind him, Ryan is working to bring the sports world and the religious landscape into one space. Those years showed him a real and largely unmet need: players, coaches, trainers, staff, and administrators all carry a great deal, and rarely have a place to tend their inner life.

Ryan standing among the pews before a service, with the congregation gathering behind him.
Sunday morning at Wilson Memorial Union Church, Watchung, New Jersey.

What guides the work

Presence
Every person receives unhurried, undivided attention.
Accessibility
Flexible fees, so cost is rarely a barrier.
Confidentiality
What is shared is held in trust, always.
Ecumenical welcome
Open to people across faith backgrounds, and to those still searching.
Integrity
Sound ethics, clear boundaries, and what we promise, we do.

Background

In ministry

2024 —Lead PastorWilson Memorial Union Church, Watchung NJ — interdenominational, International Council of Community Churches
2021 – 24Head PastorLong Valley Presbyterian Church
2017 – 21PresidentUrban Mission Cabinet, Trenton
2015 – 21Solo PastorSlackwood Presbyterian Church, Lawrenceville NJ
2014 – 15Associate PastorGroomsport Presbyterian Church, Northern Ireland

In sport

1999 – 2011Basketball coach, recruiter, and fundraiserHigh schools, colleges, and universities — including NCAA Division II at Metropolitan State College of Denver, Ohlone College, and a head-coaching post at San Diego High School
2009 – 12Founder & DirectorKing of the Court, a basketball nonprofit
2005 – 12, 2024Physical education teacherVarious schools and colleges — children, youth, and young adults

Education & training

2026Certificate in Spiritual DirectionFrancis House of Prayer, a spiritual center of the Catholic Diocese of Trenton
2012 – 16M.Div. and M.A., Missional TheologyPrinceton Theological Seminary
B.A.University of California, Santa Barbara
OrdinationOrdained Minister of Word and SacramentPresbyterian tradition; affiliated with the International Council of Community Churches, serving in interdenominational and ecumenical settings
Ryan with his wife and daughter at the church.

Closer to home

Ryan lives in New Jersey with his wife and daughter. The inner life he companions others through is one he tends himself — in a family, in a congregation, and in the ordinary week like anyone else.