About
Walking alongside people seeking deeper meaning.
Spiritual direction that helps people notice God's presence and live with greater purpose, peace, and freedom — and that stays accessible to anyone, including those in the demanding world of competitive sports.
Meet the founder
Rev. Ryan Irmer
Lead Pastor · Spiritual Director · Teacher · Coach
Never starstruck — whether you earn sixty million or sixty thousand, you're met as a human being with an inner life of your own.
Inner Life Spiritual Direction was founded by Rev. Ryan Irmer, a certified spiritual director trained through Francis House of Prayer, a spiritual center of the Catholic Diocese of Trenton.
I’ve been receiving spiritual direction for over a decade, and I don’t know where I’d be without it. Having received so much, I want to share with others how much it can change a life.
Ryan spent twelve years in basketball — coaching, recruiting, and fundraising at high schools, colleges, and universities, including an NCAA Division II staff — alongside athletes of every age, background, and gender, and teaching physical education alongside it. He later went on to seminary and ministry: a Master of Divinity and a Master of Arts in Missional Theology from Princeton Theological Seminary, an associate pastorate in Northern Ireland, and congregations across New Jersey. Today he is Lead Pastor of Wilson Memorial Union Church, an interdenominational congregation in Watchung, New Jersey. He and the congregation are both affiliated with the International Council of Community Churches — and he brings both worlds to this work.
Listen to Ryan preach — Wilson’s Weekly Word · weekly messages from Sunday worship at Wilson Memorial Union Church
With twelve years of memories and accomplishments as a coach behind him, Ryan is working to bring the sports world and the religious landscape into one space. Those years showed him a real and largely unmet need: players, coaches, trainers, staff, and administrators all carry a great deal, and rarely have a place to tend their inner life.
What guides the work
- Presence
- Every person receives unhurried, undivided attention.
- Accessibility
- Flexible fees, so cost is rarely a barrier.
- Confidentiality
- What is shared is held in trust, always.
- Ecumenical welcome
- Open to people across faith backgrounds, and to those still searching.
- Integrity
- Sound ethics, clear boundaries, and what we promise, we do.
Background
In ministry
In sport
Education & training
Closer to home
Ryan lives in New Jersey with his wife and daughter. The inner life he companions others through is one he tends himself — in a family, in a congregation, and in the ordinary week like anyone else.